One of the ideas that has stuck with me is the difference he talks about between "I can't afford it" and "How can I afford it?"
The first is a statement that shuts down any thought process or creativity and puts one in the role of victim.
The second is a question that really opens up possibilities. It puts one in a position of control.
I have been experimenting with the two options. I REALLY want a new laptop ~$1500. This big ticket purchase is definitely not in the spend plan for the immediate future. Instead of saying, "I can't afford it," I have been saying "How can I afford it?" and have been brainstorming ways to come up with the $$. I haven't come up with anything concrete yet, but I have a few ideas for generating the funds to purchase it.
Although I don't have the laptop yet, this approach has been much more positive of an experience.